The Misappropriation of the Word Feminist

Misappropriation of the word feminism

What is feminism?

Somehow, within the thousands of tweets, posts and uploads, feminism has gotten lost in translation.

I met this guy once who approached me and asked me to pay for his food. When I told him I couldn’t give him any money, he looked at me and asked, “aren’t you a feminist?” Somehow insinuating that if I were a feminist, I shouldn’t see a problem with giving him the money. Any other day I would have walked away and ignored him, but I had time that day (kinda like right now).

For the sake of this write-up let’s call this young man ‘Kayode’.

First, I asked Kayode what he thought feminism was. He replied ‘a group of women that believe they are better than men’. His definition couldn’t be more wrong. You see, much like Kayode, many people in this great nation, hell even in this world, don’t even understand what feminism is.

Feminism, is the advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of both sexes.

It is basically the argument for equal pay between men and women, equal job opportunities and the equal right to do whatever we choose in life. Be it a stay-at-home mum or a businesswoman. We want the right to do things, whatever way we choose, without being judged or looked down on for it.

So feminism isn’t anti-men but pro-human.

I saw this one tweet, I can’t remember by who but, in it, the author emphasized how feminists are the first to scream about free choice, but the moment a female figure does something that we disagree with, we call them out for it. I mean, realistically, free choice is a slippery slope. It might be a person’s choice to stay in a physically or verbally abusive relationship. But everything has its pros and cons, you know?

Over the years, the word feminism has transformed into something unrecognizable, so much so that the very mention of the word ‘feminist’ brings up thoughts of women full of rage and anger . Yes, just like every other group, there are admittedly radicals among us, but we are not all angry women. This unfortunate stereotype is one of the reasons why I decided to write this article. You’d do well to notice that nowhere in the definition of feminism does it state that only women can be feminists. As long as you believe men and women should have equal rights and opportunities, you’re a feminist too.

Literally anyone could be a feminist and honestly, everyone should.


14 thoughts on “The Misappropriation of the Word Feminist

  1. @Yinka

    “You’d do well to notice that nowhere in the definition of feminism does it state that only women can be feminist.”

    So, I’m curious how would one expect men to be considered feminist when their experience in society is radically different from that of a woman?

    Men are not socialized from birth to be polite, quiet, and to place the needs of others before their own. Nor do men have to plan their routes to work or play, or watch their drinks, or worry about ending up dead from a ‘bad date’.

    The experiences the sexes have in society are quite different and based on that I’m guessing that most men haven’t taken the time or spent the energy learning about what the female experience, or feminism is.

    I would like to suggest an alternate definition of feminism. Feminism is the struggle for female liberation from the patriarchal structures of society.

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  2. “Kayode” is a very funny man… it’s because of men like him the situation resulting into the advocaty of feminism exist.
    Thank you for letting people know not all of us are angry, anti-man, man-hating women just because we say we are FEMINISTS.

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  3. I totally agree with equality of sexes but what really hurts is feminists that fail to realise their purpose.
    Instead of fighting for equality they want superiority. In most cases, they’re the “men are scum” movement.
    God help us.

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